Looking for the best “brides to be quotes” to share at a bridal shower, tuck into a card, or reflect on before the big day? This heartfelt collection of marriage advice comes from women who’ve lived it.
This morning a friend messaged me from Germany, still glowing from her son’s storybook wedding the day before. Her note reminded me how joyful weddings are, watching someone you love step into a fresh chapter.
It also brought to mind a conversation with my online community. I asked:
“What advice would you give to a new bride?”
The replies blew me away, and I knew right away they deserved to be shared with everyone!
Whether you’re going to a bridal shower, helping plan one, or simply want some timeless wisdom, this list is for you. Every quote comes from a real woman who has been married for many years and has plenty of practical wisdom to share.
Real Marriage Advice for the Bride to Be (and for us “old brides”, too!)
(Shared by women in my online community – Come join us if you haven’t already!)
- Keep dating each other.
- A kiss and a slow dance go a long way.
- Be kind to each other. This is the person you promised to love forever, so offer kindness, respect and plenty of love, even on the frustrating days.
- Choose your words carefully.
- Pick up The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.
- Try seeing things from your spouse’s point of view; it changes how you see the situation.
- Choose your battles, since not everything needs to become an argument.
- Don’t make assumptions.
- Don’t try to remake the person you married.
- Keep in mind that you’re on the same side.
- Figure out your spouse’s love language and fill their cup. Get comfortable saying “I’m sorry.”
- Remember that you matter too. Keep your hobbies and make time for yourself.
- Counseling can be humbling, yet it can draw you closer to each other and to God. (Just choose your counselor carefully…)
- Love your spouse as they are today.
- Stay kind and respectful, especially during disagreements or when others are around.
- Don’t go to bed angry… they’ll drift off to sleep while you lie awake stewing.
- Don’t embarrass your spouse in public. Speak well of them, and speak to them kindly.
- Solve your problems as a team.
- Marriage is like fine wine; it improves with age.
- Laugh often, laugh together, and be able to laugh at yourself.
- Don’t expect your spouse to meet every need. Keep your own friendships, interests and personal growth.
- Be your own person and let your spouse be theirs.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff. You both have flaws, so cheer each other on.
- Treat your spouse like a welcome guest in your home… or even better.
- Keep God and your faith at the heart of your marriage.
How to Use These Tips at a Bridal Shower
These bits of wisdom are ideal for bridal showers! Here are a few meaningful ways to use them:
- Make a “Marriage Advice Jar”: Print the quotes on small slips of paper and let guests pull one out to read aloud.
- Decorate with Advice Cards: Show the quotes around the room or work them into a centerpiece.
- Make a Keepsake Book: Guests jot down their own advice on printable sheets (see below), and you bind them into a book.
- Bridal Shower Devotional Activity: Pair these tips with my Bridal Shower Devotional with Printable Props
- Use My Printable Set: I’ve created a Bridal Shower Printable Set with ready-to-use advice sheets to make planning simple and meaningful. Fill out the form below and it will land straight in your inbox!
Grab my printable bridal shower set, which includes an “advice for the bride” sheet for guests and the “platter full of wisdom” that goes with this devotional.
More Ideas for Bridal Showers
I began gathering bridal shower ideas years ago on social media. You’ll find decorations, shower themes, snacks, games and more on my Bridal Shower Ideas board.
Bridal Shower Games & Invitations
I’ve also assembled some handy invitation and party game sets to make shower planning even easier!
And don’t forget to save this idea so you can find it later!
